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Posted by tawodi on July 15, 2007

O.K.  It’s been awhile since I’ve written in this category…..There’s a reason for that!

I’m sometimes terrified to do so !!  I know it shouldn’t be so hard but to actually put it down in writing and the way some take every thing you say to heart scares me when it’s kids that are involved.  Then I had a revelation….get over yourself!!!

I like many over the years have seen so many “did you know”  articles written breathlessly about the damage we can do our kids if we…..fill in the blank.  The next thing you see is a rash of home grown idiots who in attempting to follow said advice screw it up so badly the results are unrecognisable as what was written. In the military there is a term for this F.U.B.A.R.  f’d up beyond all recognition. A strangly apt description of portions of my life and I daresay,  many others as well.

And then,  as I said,  I realised I had to get over myself.. if somebody is actively looking for advice of this nature it at least shows they can read, they are searching and they will be somwhat judicious in what they do with it!!

Now to start,  the first story is funny. About six years ago my daughter now twelve,  shortly after lunch one day asked my wife and I,  daddy,”  When was God here? ”  I looked at my wife and she at me and then asked,  ” why do you ask?”  She pointed at the door, and here it was terribly difficult not to crack up in insane laughter.

On the door was one of those signs you get from your church on any random Sunday , it had been up for a week or so and this is what it said….Good morning, .This is God,  I will be handling all your problems today,  I will not need your help, have a nice day……….

Before you ask,  yes she really believed God had put it there,  well,  we told her where it came from and when and explained the thought behind it,  as a sort of reminder that God IS always with us and if we listen we will very often hear his council in our daily lives, to help us with our problems,  indeed,  many times solve them for us,  when we don’t have a clue what to do.

As she is now a TWEENAGER she is beginning to have difficulty with issues like this,  especially when you consider the daily deluge from the death tube that you and I,  as parents,  are full of crap,  square as bricks,  just as intelligent,  if not an actual joke as people and they can get all their answers from youtube and M.T.V. as well as nicklodeon T.V. and heaven forfend Disney channel. Of course if you let your kids watch that crap on a continual basis you get exactly what you deserve….sorry about that!!!

NEXT NOT SO FUNNY QUESTION….. Dad do you still believe as you once did,  when you told ME all this stuff about God ??  My friends are really raggin’ on me something fierce and I don’t know what to do about it!!  My gut response to this question is and always has been. ” Well,  tell them to stuff themselves up their own butt!!”  A somewhat less than caring comment for a preacher,  no??  Well I figured that the CARING response should be ” Honey, anyone who truly likes you will see you are happy and that will be good enough for them. ” ” The ones who don’t really care about YOU will always rag on you,  to be what they think you should be,  so they can have your approval for the things they know in their hearts,   are truly wrong.”

“Dad, why do you always seem to think it is so easy,  to do the right thing no matter what somebody says?”

DARLING DAUGHTER MINE;  Where the Devil did you ever get the idea that it’s Easy!!??!!  Being true to the truth and yourself is the toughest thing in life you will ever do. The love that God has for us,  is not the only thing that makes  it possible,  people CAN have good character if they work very hard for it,  but,  and this is a big BUT,  We as people of God,  have in our hearts the holy Spirit,  that never lets us doubt the correct course to take,  if we but listen.

Now we come to the crux of the matter. How do we listen??  When do we listen??  Where do we listen??  What do we listen to??  Why do we listen?? When we’re not sure we are listening the right way.  or to the right thing, who do we ask??

As a parent I hope you have counselled your kids to NEVER listen to their friend when the chips are down….oooooh how can I SAY that !! Well that’s easy to answer,  their friends have little skulls full of mush,  just like they do,  WHAT DO THEY KNOW???  As I raised my older kids and this one,  I always stressed this and usually about the age she is now,  she has had about ten examples of how they don’t know their butt from their elbow!!  At least any more than she does!!  there is no one who will care for you more than your own family,  NO ONE!!  That is the primary lesson here,  we as a people,  have let the raising of our children go to the point that we stand there wringing our hands whining,  “It’s so hardddddd. ”  Like you boobs,  see on the Oprah show for your daily crying jag. Wake the hell up!!  This job is too important to leave to someone looking for ratings!!  These are YOUR kids and that’s what this little page in the middle of nowhere is what you came to read.  Or isn’t it?   Did you want something smarmy,  to make you feel better about yourself.   Or were you looking for the truth??  I’m sorry I don’t mean to offend anyone but it needs to be said.  The ultimate responsibility is yours,  there is no getting around that.  Too many say they didn’t know,  or they didn’t see,  bullfeathers!! Most of the time they weren’t looking!!  They were stuck in the death tube themselves ” Leave me alone right now,  I’m watching celebrity death match!!”  I’m sure that will be a great comfort to you when you get the phone call no one wants. God forbid!!

I don’t usually close on a down note and if you think about it I mean really THINK about it this is not such an ending you are or have at least read this far and there is only one reason for that.  It certainly isn’t because I have the answer to your life.  It is because YOU CARE and are searching for answers to help you find a way to bring up your children in what has become a very scary world out there. You ARE smart enough to do it!!  You ARE GOOD  enough to do it!!   SO DO IT!!

That’s the hard part self doubt but if you seek God in your life He WILL support you,  it will be hard at times,  we have bad things happen to us as Christians too,  but we have an edge,  the support of our God,  Jesus Christ and the fellowship of our Churches,  which is priceless in an insane world.

Have faith,  go with God,  be well and take care……Rev.  Bruce……………………………………………………..Tawodi


One Response to “KIDS AND WHAT DO WE TELL THEM ??”

  1. sinead said

    that was very nice to read about god and jesus i leart a lot

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